A Q&A with the Sears Roebuck Professor of General Management, Marketing, and Behavioral Science at Chicago Booth.
People include phrases like that in their conversations before saying something negative. Intervening in the flow of information in this way makes you more persuasive and likable. Linguists call these “dispreferred markers.”
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Looking for a Deal on Happiness?I notice them in online product reviews, for instance. I think most of us are aware that some people are pre-irritated in life: they just want to vent their frustrations and anger. If somebody is presenting you with negative information, you have to determine, “Is this person a crank?” A dispreferred marker is a signal that says, “I am not a crank. I know that presenting negative information is off-putting.” It’s a way of being a good conversational partner and not sounding like a curmudgeon.
Have you spent time in the American south? You’ll hear, “Bless his heart.” Or just about anywhere it might be, “Don’t get me wrong.” If you hear someone say one of these, just dive under the desk. They have become a license to kill. I think the general lesson is to recognize that what’s important is not what you’re saying but how people will react to what you’re saying. This is true of persuasion more generally. Good persuasion involves thinking about what other people think. Persuasion is in the other person’s head.
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